Why No One is responding to Your Online Personals Profile

You’ve had your profile up for months... how come no one’s knocking down your door to meet you? Chances are that you’ve broken one of the many rules for creating effective online personals profiles. Read through the list below and see if you might need to make some changes today.

1. You Seem Like Everyone Else

It’s critical that your profile makes you stand out from the crowd. Don’t use the same old phrases and descriptions everyone else is using – be creative and think outside the box.

2. Your Photo Stinks

If your photo is grainy or unflattering, you’re going to have a tough time attracting people. It’s got to be a clear photo and the more interesting the better. Before you choose your photo, spend some time perusing through several other profiles to see what photos catch your eyes. Instead of using a simple headshot, opt instead for a picture that depicts you doing one of your favourite activities. Your photo should be realistic as well... no shots from when you were ten years younger and twenty pounds lighter.

3. You used too many acronyms

Sue you think it’s cool to use all sorts of online jargon, but many people have no idea what you’re talking about. Don’t use your profile to show off how cyber chic you are. If you’re looking for a SBiF (single bisexual female) with a SOH, (sense of humour) just say so. All your witty adult dating acronyms can be a real turn off.

4. You’re inconsistent

If you describe yourself as adventurous and then go on to say that chess is your favourite past time, you might say you’re coming off a tad inconsistent. Write your profile and then let a close friend proof it for accuracy.

5. You Gave Out Way Too Much Information

I know you think you’re pretty fabulous and interesting, but no one needs to learn everything about you in your profile. In fact, less is more when it comes to describing yourself. When you have a profile that looks more like a novel, you give people the impression that you like to go on about yourself. The only future they can imagine with you is one filled with your constant droning on about yourself. Yuck. Keep it short and simple.

6. You List Sucking On Toes as One of Your Favourite Past Times

OK. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a few quirky fetishes. My advice is that you might just want to keep them on the down low until you get to know someone a little better. The exception is, of course, on intimate encounter sites where the more detailed you can be about your fantasies the better.

7. It reads like a fifth grader wrote it

No one’s expecting Shakespeare here but you’re going to want to demonstrate some intelligence. A profile littered with spelling mistakes and grammatical errors is not going to put you in the best light.

8. It’s a ‘ME’ fest

Your profile needs to be filled with interesting information about you and your interests. But keep in mind that interested candidates will learn just as much from what you say about yourself as how you talk about yourself. In other words, if you tend to go on and on about yourself in your profile, you might be giving people the impression that this is how you’ll be in person. Try to be a little humble and conservative.

9. Your Ideal Mate Sounds Ridiculous

An important component of your profile will be your description of your ideal mate. If you tend to over emphasise physical attributes and describe measurements that simply aren’t physically possible, people will just figure you’re shallow and superficial and simply move on. Even if physical appearance is important, try to also include some other characteristics about what you’re looking for.

10. You’re Not Honest

Don’t lie or misrepresent yourself in your profile... it will only come back to bite you later on. There are a lot of fish in the sea – there’s no need to lure someone in under false pretences. Be honest and candid at all times.

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